How To Think Positive – Affirmations Vs. Afformations

This is an idea I recently came across while reading a peer’s blog about a month ago. I think we all can relate to feelings of being “stuck” with our negative thoughts and trying to retrain our brains to think positive. Once you figure out how to think positively in a way that works for you, it is a total game changer!

Changing your affirmations into afformations is just one way we can train our brains on how to think positive.



Affirmation: The act of confidently stating a fact to be true openly and publicly. Expressing emotional support or encouragement.

Afformation: Asking a positive question rather than making a positive statement (affirmation).

We are all guilty of lying to ourselves or trying to force ourselves to believe affirmations. The most relatable example that has stuck with me is working out. We would love to be able to say “I really like working out”, but at some point, there are times when we truly just don’t like doing it and we don’t want to do it.

I could say that affirmation out loud and then immediately my brain is thinking “no I don’t”. LOL

If we change that affirmation into a question and ask ourselves “Why do I like working out?”, our brain will begin to search for answers. Even if you don’t physically feel like working out right at that moment, I’m sure you can come up with some answers as to why you like working out. “Working out gives me energy, working out makes me feel more confident, working out makes me strong” are all positive thoughts that come to mind for me when I ask myself that question.

I haven’t worked out as a habit in almost a year and that simple question has positively influenced my mind into thinking about the reasons I truly do like to work out. At this point in my personal growth process, that is a great first step.

This is just an example of the many affirmations you may have. I have listed 20 affirmations and their paired afformations. Hopefully, something here flips a switch with you and allows you to see the difference a simple question can make.

You might not always “believe” the affirmation at this moment, but if you ask yourself the question, your brain will come up with the answers you need to get one step closer.



I love my job. Why do I love my job?
I am healthy. Why am I so healthy?
My mental health is strong. Why is my mental health so strong?
I am a strong leader. Why am I such a strong leader?
I love my friends Why do I love my friends?
I am losing weight. Why do I weigh 160 pounds now?
I love my family. Why do I love my family?
I like going to the gym. Why do I like going to the gym?
I deserve the best. Why do I deserve the best?
I am successful. Why am I successful?
I am in a healthy and loving relationship. Why is my relationship so healthy and loving?
I am beautiful. What makes me beautiful?
I am loved. Why am I so loved?
I am a great listener. Why am I a great listener?
I have a strong support system. Why do I have such a strong support system?
I take good care of myself. Why do I take good care of myself?
I love my pets. Why do I love my pets?
I am a great communicator. Why am I a great communicator?
I am open to love. Why do I let myself be open to love?
I take responsibility for my health. Why do I take responsibility for my health?


All of these afformations may not apply to you, but I hope at least some of them do. I would love to hear some of your affirmations vs afformations!

Leave me a comment with your favorite afformation from the above, or share with me your own personal afformation that I may not have listed here.

Thanks for stopping by!



  • Kelyee

    Wow, good point. I lied to myself all…the…time… Lol, I need to start asking myself, “why are you lying to yourself? Don’t you like you?” Of course, I do. (I think) yep, I do!

    Thanks for making me realize that I need to step back and revaluate my thinking. Awesome sauce! 🙂

  • Enrique

    Hi, Kay,

    I had never heard of afformation before, but it sounds interesting. The power of the mind is such that we don’t fully comprehend it.
    Your example about the gym made me laugh. I hate the gym with a passion, even though I know all the benefits you get from it. I’ll start asking myself different questions and seeing things from another perspective.

    Thank you for writing this up. I look forward to reading more about it.

  • Strahinja

    Wow, thank you for this. I never heard about afformations before. Seems to me like they are much more friendlier to our mind then affirmations. As you said, when we ask questions the mind starts searching for answers and possiblities which is much more useful then using an affirmation which are denied by our emotions.

    I will start using this concept starting from now.

  • Mike Adkins

    Hi Kay.
    This is an interesting way of thinking about things, I have never seen this described so clearly before.

    “I love my job” – This applied to me, in my last job before I went self employed. I had a job in an office for 8 years, the money was good, the people I worked with were great. The company I worked with grew and we progressed as a team, the money went up BUT so did the stress and negative aspects.

    People asked my about my job and I always said I loved it. One day when I was stressed I asked myself the question “why do I love my job” and I realised that I no longer loved the job, I just loved the money, this was an awakening!

    Within 3 months of this I had left the stress and dullness for life as a self employed person, less money but now I really do love my job,

    Kind Regards

    • Kay

      This is an awesome example! Thank you for sharing. I think a lot of people get stuck at that point you are describing and it’s hard to accept that something you may have loved at first might not be something you will always love in the future as things evolve and change.

  • Karen

    Very interesting way to look at things. Not only say or think positive things, but ask why. As I was reading this I thought about how children ask so many “why” questions. It’s because they’re trying to learn by understanding. Sadly though, we as adults don’t have time for all that, so we discourage the questions. This make children grow into adults that don’t ask “why”. So, thanks for bringing this to light. I’m a big picture person, so the afformation really makes sense to me. I’m going to try this when I need a boost of positivity in my thoughts.

    • Kay

      That makes complete sense and maybe that is a huge part of the reason I am a huge “why” asking the type of person. My parents encouraged me to ask the “why” and in the business world we are always encouraged to ask the “why” and to take it to the next step.

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  • Jayrah George

    Wow, I am so big on affirmations and have never thought about afformations. This is the first time I’m hearing about this. I believe this will definitely help improve my positive thinking. Thanks for sharing!!

  • Claude Sikubw

    Cool! In the beginning of convincing myself that I wanted to do business, i always made a strong affirmation like

    I hate going to work for someone. But then, Why do I hate to go to work? Am I this lazy?
    This plan must work. But then, Why am I so strong on this plan?

    In your list, I love the
    I deserve the best. Why do I deserve the best? I know I can work on it for myself. so, I deserve it.

  • Nadine Leddy

    Hi Kay
    I loved this post, and sorry I had a real giggle when you said about your brain replying “No I don,t”. That happens to me a lot I refer to my brain as the “Keeping it real” part of me. But, I really loved what you have written, and will be putting this into practice more often. I have actually done something similar just recently, I had to give up smoking for heart reasons I tried many times and failed, but this time instead of telling myself I “Have to give up”. I told myself I don’t want to walk into 2020 as a smoker and its working, smoke free since 30th Dec 🙂 Many thanks for your wonderful post.

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